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By Louis Neiger

I am about to share something that is not considered to be politically correct. Before your young adult daughters go back to public school or college we should continue to sit down with them, even at younger ages twelve or thirteen, and suggest that they wait on God for the right young man.

Abstinence is NOT a bad word. Your daughter has choices if she does not indulge in sex. Once she has sex she lost the choice of keeping her self for the one God has especially prepared for her.

My wife and I have thirteen wonderful children ages thirty-five years down to eight years. We have been additionally blessed with the oldest two children marrying two great spouses and as of this writing nine grandchildren that can almost do no wrong. Well, we do know better, there is the sin nature after all.

God has given us the grace and wisdom to raise our children a different way and correct mistakes and make adjustments as parents in raising up our children by not conforming to how the present liberal left is taking the country in politics, media and our schools.

Our third adult child Heather is preparing for marriage soon to a wonderful man from Baltimore. I was blessed to be part of seeing God work in preparing her for twenty-eight years for the right young man. Also being part of her life in making sure he is a suitable man.

Heather had given me permission to make sure that the one to whom I give her to will indeed be worthy of her. This is not an easy task. Outward appearance is deceiving, and I could be quite capable of being deceived. I screened the young man who would court my daughter. In this screening process I became the chief screener. Do you know what questions to ask and how to ask them? Do you know how to get behind the young man’s facade and know the real man? Well at the end I will share some of those questions.

Heather is a family coordinator for two states in a national Home school organization. She first met the young man in Chicago at a coordinator meeting. The young man was stricken by her looks, work ethics and her ability to be very organized. She is articulate and just has a knack of getting the job done and getting other people motivated. In his mind he thought she would be a wonderful wife for him and she communicated to him he would have to contact me. You see, Heather told me if she was to marry I had to say OK first. “Dad, you must get this right,” she told me, as she does not want to marry a dud.

My adult daughters have all made commitments to themselves and God, for them not to be alone and to develop emotional attachments with any men. Guys come around asking for my daughters’ hand, but they really want much more. They want the entire lifetime I have invested her. They want to reap the harvest that GOD, Linda and I have so carefully tended and protected for the best part of her life. When that young man comes around asking for my daughter, he is making off with a major fruit of my life. My involvement is a protection for my daughters. As a man I can spot insincerity in another man easier than my daughter after her hormones are raging and her brain has gone south. Women want to believe that they can change things about a man once they are married. Only God can change a heart. If a young woman understands this and does not allow a young man to steal her affections before her father has a chance to check him out she will save herself and her future children a lot of grief.

I’ve had several young men ask to court, or marry my daughters whom I was able to eliminate. It’s called marriage Q & A. You ask the right questions, and he tries to give the right answers. There are some concerns that are universal and must be addressed. They are serious enough that any father should reject a suitor who doesn’t measure up. Getting to the truth early and openly is the key.

I read an article ‘Dad’s daughter’ by Michael Pearl’ March April 2006 issue No Greater Joy which he articulates some of my same views and I will be sharing in part from his article of the insights of how to question young men as follows:

…“Now, to get down to serious business.

Before I bothered to check up on references, and immediately upon being approached I cut to the quick with him. The young man was obviously little nervous and unsure of himself, so I put him at ease by being at ease. I started out by asking inconsequential questions that are not likely to be of any great importance,

This first, powerful question will eliminate 75% or more of the unfit suitors. If their answers and their heart have satisfied you so far, then you might want to ask, “Name the last ten movies you have watched, and tell me about them.” Be advised, your daughters’ and his children, your grandchildren, will grow up watching TV with him. Ask him what channel his car radio is tuned to, and the last three music CDs he purchased. Music both molds the soul and expresses it. A person is defined by the music he prefers.

Ask him about his home life. “Are your parents happily married? Do you want your marriage to be like theirs?” Follow up with, “What is it that they do wrong/right, and what would you do differently?” It is a fact that the home life of a young man is predictive of how his home life will be with your daughter. If his father is an insensitive brute, remember that this young man has been molded in his father’s image, for he received his worldview (family view) from his family.

Find out how he relates to his brothers and sisters. If he is fatherly and protective of his younger siblings, then he will be so with his own children. If he thinks they are brats and avoids them, then he is selfish and will not like his own children. How does he view his mother? That’s how he will view his wife.

Pause for a moment and just look at him. He is relaxed again. You have gotten past the hard part, so he thinks. Let the pause be long enough for sobering effect. Establish eye contact now and ask, “Have you ever had sex with a girl?” If he answers that one OK, follow up with, “Have you ever had sexual contact with another male?” Up to one fourth of the boys today have. You know him now. If there is any doubt, pursue it immediately. Look for signs of shame and lying. A growing number of teenagers have. You’d better find out now before it’s too late.

Don’t take shock for guilt. An innocent and naive young man who has been quite protected all his life may be shocked at the question. But if the young adult looks like he just got caught with his hand in the cookie jar, you likely have a porno freak seeking your daughter’s hand. He may end up molesting your grandkids. He has failed the suitor test, not just by viewing pornography, but also by lying about it. Even though he is unfit to be any girl’s husband at this point in his life, you might want to take the opportunity to counsel him for his own good. Warn him against pornography and tell him how it has disqualified him. Assure him that it is not too late to become a man of virtue, but it will take several years of staying clean” before he could be trusted.”…

Many marriages today end in divorce over pornography. This is a very important issue and is usually kept hidden unless a father interested in the future of his daughter and grandchildren takes the time to ask these hard questions. Dads, there is no question whatsoever that the task is daunting. How are two young adults, who are suited to a life together, going to find each other in the fog of sin and folly in which we all live? Pray. I say again a thousand times: pray. Plead with God and ask him for wisdom. Ask him for a miracle. Linda and I prayed for and with Heather and the rest of the family. We continue to pray for our other children as well to find that someone God has created especially for them.

Here is part of the list Heather gave me for the “Prince Charming” several years ago which I did use along with prayer, observation, and with checking up on references before he took her out the 1^st time.

1. Testimony of salvation

2. What is your personal relationship with Jesus like? (Personal devotions, prayer life - maybe ask what the Lord has been teaching him lately)

3. Are your parents in full agreement with this courtship?

4. Have you ever struggled with pornography? If so, how long ago and what steps have you taken to conquer it? What commitments and changes have you made - so this will not happen again?

1. How do you know that this is the Lords will?

1. What do you see in her that is making you pursue her?

7. What is your definition of love?

8. What do you believe is the role of the husband?

9. What do you believe is the role of the wife?

10. Are you financially ready to support a family? If not, when will you be?

11. What is the role of both sets of parents when you are married?

12. If we were to ask your mother how you treat her, what would she say?

13. What is your view and role of children …How many children do you want?

14.What is your belief on a wife working outside the home?

15. What is your view on TV?

16. What is your view on movies, videos, video games, secular and Christian?

17. What is your commitments concerning music? What is your standard for Godly music?

18. Do you struggle with anger?

19. Would your family say that you struggle with anger?

20. Are there currently any significant time-wasters in your life that have hindered your walk with the Lord or become an idol?

21. Were there significant time wasters that the Lord convicted you of within the last few years? If so, how have they been resolved?

22. What scripture have you been meditating on lately?

Parents it is never too early or late in life to turn off the TV and spend good time with your daughters and sons. Linda and I are blessed to be best friends with all of our children. They look to us on many issues for guidance and direction. We have been able to share our successes along with our failures. Hopefully they will never have to go through our failures. Our Pastor Dr. Gary Ledbetter of Kennerly Road Baptist church stated, in a recent message. “God is a God of second chances.” Talk with your children about the mistakes and give them direction or redirection.

Soon they will be gone.

Enjoy, till next time

Lou Neiger has worked in the Insurance Planning field since 1981 and earned his CLU designation from the American College in Bryn Mawr, Pa. Lou has been published in several papers as a guest columnist in South Carolina. He and his family live in Newberry

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College Democrat Ground Troops take over USC for weekend…

 For the past week, the Democratic Party has temporarily moved to South Carolina. With Monday night’s debate at The Citadel in Charleston and the College Democrats of America holding their national Convention at the University of South Carolina, South Carolina Democrats are having one of their best weeks ever.

 El Cid was not its typical self on Monday night. Instead of order, there was chaos as expected with YouTube playing host. The Democratic Presidential Candidates used the back drop of the Citadel, steeped in military tradition, to Bush Bash, take shots at the war and play the Panda Bear game, that is who can pander more.

 The same dog and pony show has moved to Columbia. The rhetoric has been sharpened and it’s like a liberal butcher shop, full of red meat for the Democrat ground troops, the College Democrats of America.

While Obama girl was in Charleston, she was not Baracking students’ worlds at the Russell House in Columbia. In her place were Obama Rappers giving a hip hop introduction for the Illinois Senator, only for the Senator himself to give a speech that fueled the flames of the ultra liberal students.

Obama’s remarks sounded like the he was running for Student Body President not President of the United States. He made countless promises from Universal Health Care to lower tuitions and lower Student Loan Rates, yet never spoke about how he was going to implement those programs or how he was going to pay for them. Instead, he chose to move on to Bush Bashing and pander to the delegates at the College Democrats of America national convention.

A simple look at the College Democrats agenda shows that the same ratio of time will be allotted to the same topics from Monday night when the Democrats spend forty minutes talking about reparations and same sex marriages and barely forty seconds talking about taxes.

This is evident in the caucuses that make up the College Democrats of America, they have a Gay Lesbian Transsexual Caucus, as well as African American, Hispanic, Asian American, and Disability, and Women’s caucuses. Here’s my question, if you are a straight, white male democrat and at the CDA convention, who do you caucus with?

Anyways, the Russell House is abuzz and all of this Democratic activity is great for South Carolina’s economy. I know the restaurants and hotels in Charleston showed off their world famous hospitality Monday night and I’m sure the bars in Five Points will be thankful for having an extra thousand college students in town during the summer.

If you want to go check it out, the Dems are at the Russell House Friday and Saturday with John Edwards speaking Friday night at Davis Field, next to the Russell House. Saturday rostrum includes Hillary Clinton, Mike Gravel, and Dennis Kucinich just before lunch.

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As with any debate there are some great things found outside of the debate hall. Here is a quote from the Post and Courier from after the debate.  One of our dear Republican friends was their and sending a message to John Edwards.

From the Post and Courier:

Others were less cagey. LBJ, not the former president, of course, but Linda Butler-Johnson, a Republican from Wadmalaw, wasn’t bashful about the message she had for those gathered for the CNN/YouTube Democratic debate.

Spilled across a folding table under her “Vote Republicans” signs, Butler-Johnson had hair-care products next to a few makeshift barber’s chairs. “No one had a big enough ego to ask for the $400 haircut,” Butler-Johnson said, although she did give a few people a quick trim.

LBJ’s Barber Shop opened for business outside the Citadel Monday afternoon just prior to Democratic debate with Cindy Clark from Hanahan and Josh Cockrell from Batesburg her assistants.

LEXINGTON, SC — Randy Page, a Lexington resident and parent of two school-age children, filed a notice of appeal in federal court today, challenging a district court’s ruling that Lexington School District One did not violate his First Amendment rights by denying him the same access to the School District’s resources as provided to other private parties to present his views on the “Put Parents In Charge” legislation.

The lawsuit stems from the School District’s refusal to grant Mr. Page’s request for access to the District’s publicly-funded information distribution system (e-mail, newsletters and website) to present his views in favor of school choice after the District had provided other third parties with access to the system to criticize and speak out against the politically charged issue.  Despite evidence that the School District created a forum with taxpayer-supported resources and then discriminated against Mr. Page based solely on his viewpoint by preventing him from gaining access to that forum, the district court ruled in favor of the School District, finding that Mr. Page’s constitutional rights had not been violated.

By filing his notice of appeal, Mr. Page now takes his case to the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Fourth Circuit, based in Richmond, Virginia.  In another recent viewpoint discrimination case against a South Carolina school district, Child Evangelism Fellowship of S.C. v. Anderson School District Five, the Fourth Circuit reversed a district court’s ruling that rejected the plaintiff’s First Amendment challenge.  In Child Evangelism, the Fourth Circuit ruled that allowing school officials to have unfettered discretion to determine which groups may be granted access to school facilities created a risk of viewpoint discrimination, thereby violating the First Amendment’s free speech protections.  “Given its proven track record of protecting the free speech rights of citizens when the government discriminates based on viewpoint, I am confident that the Fourth Circuit will give the merits of my case due consideration on appeal,” said Mr. Page.

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CNN: Political Ticker AM

http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/

According to a new CNN/Opinion Research Corporation poll of SC Republican primary voters released this morning, John McCain is in second place with 20%.

Giuliani            28%

McCain            20%

F. Thompson   17%

Gingrich            6%

Romney            4%

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Stokes sent tens of thousands of emails (he had over 60,000 at his disposal) to state government email addresses extolling the virtues of Jim Rex, then a candidate for Education Superintendent.  His defense?  Other people did it and “I assumed that it was proper.”  Now that’s a really good defense.

In order to punish Stokes for emailing these overtly political messages to state government email addresses which is a clear violation of the state ethics law, the Ethics Commission slapped him with a $50 fine!  That’s less than 8/100ths of a cent per email. 

The lesson here is that anyone can now send unlimited political messages to government email addresses for less than pennies on the dollar, and all you have to do is claim ignorance of the law.  Not only did Zeke have to pay this hefty $50 fine, but he was rewarded by being given a nice contract (up to $1,200/week) from Jim Rex to make Rex look good and send even more messages to state email addresses.

Sadly, this type of rot and blatant corruption is what we’ve come to expect as the norm at the State Department of Education.  While our children suffer and fall further behind, these folks are playing politics.

The moral of the story is:  Send out all the political emails you want .you get paid handsomely in the end.

Randall S. Page, President

South Carolinians for Responsible Government 3020 Devine Street Columbia, South Carolina 29205

(803) 212-1051

DOW Hits 14,000 Same Day

http://www.nypost.com/seven/07182007/postopinion/editorials/14_000_editorials_.htm

Dissident U.S. intelligence officers angry at former Defense Secretary Donald Rumsfeld helped a European probe uncover details of secret CIA prisons in Europe, the top investigator said on Tuesday.

Swiss Senator Dick Marty, author of a Council of Europe report on the jails, said senior CIA officials disapproved of Rumsfeld’s methods in hunting down terrorist suspects, and had agreed to talk to him on condition of anonymity.

“There were huge conflicts between the CIA and Rumsfeld. Many leading figures in the CIA did not accept these methods at all,” Marty told European Parliament committees, defending his work against complaints it was based on unnamed sources.

The report issued last month said the Central Intelligence Agency ran secret jails in Poland and Romania, with the complicity of those governments, and transported terrorist suspects across Europe in secret flights.

Poland and Romania have repeatedly denied hosting CIA prisons on their soil.

“People in the CIA felt these things were not consonant with the sort of intelligence work they normally do,” Marty said.

He said he had based his findings largely on conversations with “high officials of the CIA (and) highly placed European office-holders, who for different reasons, often honorable reasons, were ready to explain what had happened”.

Since he had no power to summon witnesses, subpoena documents or search buildings, he was forced to rely on such evidence, Marty said.

“The Americans themselves admitted there were secret prisons, that they abducted people from the streets, that people were handed over to countries like Syria, Yemen, Egypt where they were tortured,” he said.

U.S. President George W. Bush acknowledged last year that the CIA had held top al Qaeda suspects in secret overseas detention centers but did not say in which countries.

“The president of United States made a very important statement…, I think we can all expect … in the near future further admissions,” said Marty.

He also said he would not remove name of former Polish and Romanian government officials from the report, although they threatened on Tuesday to take legal action against the senator.

The report said former Polish national security adviser Marek Siwiec and former Romanian Defense Minister Ioan Pascu knew their countries had hosted secret CIA detention centers.

“I have no reason to withdraw his name. I would certainly not be prepared to apologies. He knew exactly what was happening as did his president,” Marty told a news conference, referring to Siwiec and former Polish President Aleksander Kwasniewski.

“I am not shaking in my shoes,” he said of the libel suit that Siwiec vowed to launch in a Polish court unless Marty removed his name from the report within seven days.

Pascu challenged Marty in the hearing to substantiate his allegations or withdraw them, but the Swiss legislator did not respond directly.

© Reuters 2007.

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by Randy Page

Our state’s largest newspaper printed an editorial last week exhorting the State Ethics Commission to uphold the law prohibiting campaigning with state property. Other media outlets will no doubt rightly concur and possibly offer an editorial of their own on the ills associated with such an activity. Whether it’s Thomas Ravenel using state email to support Rudy Guiliani or Jim Rex’s campaign manager using state resources to benefit his campaign, those who misuse state resources must be held accountable.

And while our organization agrees that public resources should be strictly prohibited from being used in political campaigns, the law stops well short of where it should regarding such practices. There should also be a prohibition against government employees and resources being used for lobbying purposes.

Unless it’s their job to do so, government employees should not be involved in lobbying or political campaigns on the public dime and with public resources. What they do on their own time and on their own dime is fine, but their lobbying and campaign activities should not be supported by our tax dollars. Government employees work for the people - they don’t represent the people. That concept seems to have been lost as government has grown bigger and bigger and has assumed more control over our lives.

Over the past three years, there are numerous examples of the Superintendent of Education (both Jim Rex and Inez Tenenbaum), school district superintendents and others within the public school system utilizing public resources for propaganda purposes and to lobby against the school choice effort. These activities range from hundreds of thousands of email action alerts going out to government employees; to propaganda flyers being printed and distributed in schools; to dozens of government employees using public time to converge on the Statehouse to lobby legislators.

When engaging in these lobbying efforts, not only are these government employees not doing the job for which they were hired, but they are using tax dollars to lobby against measures that those who pay their salaries might very well support. Such activities should not be tolerated.

This practice is certainly not exclusive to just the education establishment, but with their having a $7 billion budget and the largest number of government employees throughout the state, their use of public resources and employees to lobby for or against an issue is exceptionally obvious.

Tax dollars should be strictly neutral. When government employees get involved in political or lobbying campaigns while on the public’s time, it’s akin to the hired help telling the boss what to do. No business would allow that, and if they did they wouldn’t be in business long.

Couple the lobbying efforts of government employees with a state ethics law that allows elected officials to squelch criticism and restrict taxpayers’ political speech, and you have a system in which the inmates are definitely running the asylum. Thankfully, the US Supreme Court recently ruled against such a prohibition on political speech, which will ultimately put some power back into the hands and voices of the people paying the bills. Now, state elected officials need to show some leadership and take the next step in strengthening our “government of the people, by the people, and for the people” by outlawing the practice of lobbying with government resources. Allowing public monies and resources to be used to lobby against taxpayers does not lend itself to such a government.

Kudos to the media for drawing attention to this issue, but a double standard should not apply when it comes to public resources being used in the political arena. Public resources and the government employees who utilize said resources should be barred from both political campaigns and lobbying campaigns while on the public’s time.

Randy Page is President of South Carolinians for Responsible Government, a statewide grassroots organization advocating for more efficient and effective government.

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